If you’ve heard my story, you know I’ve had to overcome a lot of things. I grew up in modest circumstances and struggled academically as a kid. I’ve had significant health challenges, lived through a divorce, and just barely avoided financial ruin. I even survived a plane crash.
What brought me through all of it wasn’t luck. It was fortitude. It was endurance.
Fortitude and endurance don’t come from just saying you’re going to do something. They come from knowing and believing in your strengths as an individual.
Fortitude and endurance don’t come from being a superhero. They come from believing that an everyday person—like you and me—has a deep-rooted ability to change their own situation.
The ability to overcome challenges is not somehow only available to a group of elite people. It’s available to everyone.
Finding your strength zones
To believe in your strengths, you have to know what they are. To find out, follow these steps:
Take an online test to determine your strengths. Usually, a free online test takes just 15-20 minutes. Try xxx, xxx, or xxx.
Make a list of your own strengths. What kinds of human interactions resonate with you? What are your gifts? What are the perpetual compliments you hear from family members, friends, and co-workers? What are you passionate about? What kinds of roles are you always asked to play?
Make a list of the things you don’t like to do. Equally valuable is knowing what are not your strengths. Figuring out what you would rather skip or ask someone else to do is a valuable tool when you’re trying to get motivated. Don’t try to motivate yourself in ways that don’t come naturally to you.
Focusing on your strengths
Now that you know what you’re good at doing, put all your energy into using those talents and tendencies to achieve the thing you really want to do.
If you want to eat healthier and one of your strengths is human connection, call some close friends and talk with them about your goals. Find out how you can keep yourself accountable to them, in ways that help you connect with people you care about.
If you want to build a new career and one of your strengths is creativity, set a time on your calendar to have a brainstorming session about what it is you will do next and get creative about the various paths you can use to get there.
See what I mean? Focus on the things you’re best at to get the things you want.
At the same time, get in the habit of positive self-talk: You are capable. You are strong. You are not destined to quit. You can always find a way forward.